Weekly tip
One short tip each week for husbands and wives — read in a minute, easy to share.
All tips
Tip of the week · together Begin with salam and a smile A smile for your spouse is charity, and the salam sows affection. “You will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another…” (Sahih Muslim) Practise: Greet your spouse with salam and a smile every time you meet today. → Tip of the week · husbands Maintenance according to means — but never neglected Maintenance is obligatory according to one's means — recorded and paid, not an empty promise. “Let the man of means spend according to his means…” (At-Talaq 65:7) Practise: Fix a set date each month for handing over the maintenance. → Tip of the week · together Listen first, advise later Many arguments subside when a spouse feels heard, not judged. “…and reason with them in the way that is best.” (An-Nahl 16:125) Practise: Ask: “Would you like me just to listen, or to help sort it out?” → Tip of the week · together Guard the secrets and faults of the home What happens between husband and wife is not for telling to others. The Prophet ﷺ counted among the worst of people the one who discloses a spouse's secrets (Sahih Muslim) Practise: Do not share private household matters on social media or with friends. → Tip of the week · husbands A fair rotation is an act of worship Outward fairness between wives — time, rotation, maintenance — is obligatory and can be seen. “…but if you fear that you will not be just, then only one.” (An-Nisa' 4:3) Practise: Plan a clear rotation and keep to it without leaning too far to one side. → Tip of the week · husbands Appreciate your spouse's work at home The Prophet ﷺ helped with the household; appreciating a wife's efforts strengthens affection. Aishah was asked what the Prophet did at home, and replied: “He used to help with the family's work.” (Sahih al-Bukhari) Practise: Say thank you for one thing your spouse did today. → Tip of the week · wives Obedience in what is right, never in sin Obedience to the husband is in what is good, together with cooperation in building the home. “There is no obedience to any created being in disobedience to the Creator.” (sahih hadith) Practise: Talk it over kindly if a request is burdensome; do not bottle it up. → Tip of the week · together Making du'a together strengthens the bond A home where Allah's name is mentioned is calmer and more blessed. “…and make us leaders for the God-fearing.” (Al-Furqan 25:74) Practise: Recite one du'a together before going to sleep tonight. → Tip of the week · together Forgiveness is better than winning Forgiving small mistakes saves a household from cracking. “…and let them forgive and overlook.” (An-Nur 24:22) Practise: Let go of one small mistake of your spouse today without bringing it up. → Tip of the week · together Teach children by example Children learn from what we do, not only from what we say. “Protect yourselves and your families from a Fire…” (At-Tahrim 66:6) Practise: Show one good manner in front of your children today. → Tip of the week · together Be honest about money Openness about money prevents suspicion and quarrels. “…and help one another in goodness and piety…” (Al-Ma'idah 5:2) Practise: Share an honest picture of the family finances with your spouse. → Tip of the week · together Guard the gaze and digital boundaries Guarding your eyes and your phone protects the heart and the home. “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze…” (An-Nur 24:30) Practise: Review your boundaries for online interaction today. → Tip of the week · together Intimacy is a responsibility too Meeting your spouse's needs with affection is part of what they are due. The Prophet ﷺ taught good manners and gentleness in married life. Practise: Give your spouse attention and tenderness, not just routine. → Tip of the week · husbands The right intention before polygyny Polygyny is a heavy trust; examine your intention and your means before taking the step. “…then if you fear that you will not be just, then only one.” (An-Nisa' 4:3) Practise: Read the e-book 'Daring to Practise Polygamy' or 'Honest Polygamy' before making a decision. → Tip of the week · husbands The first wife's rights are not reduced Marrying again adds responsibilities; it does not cut existing rights. “And live with them in kindness.” (An-Nisa' 4:19) Practise: Make sure the first wife's maintenance and time stay as they are, not reduced. → Tip of the week · together Resolve conflict before anger takes root Do not let a quarrel drag on; look for a resolution promptly. “The strong person is not the one who wrestles well, but the one who controls himself when angry.” (agreed upon) Practise: If you are angry, make wudu and postpone the conversation until you are calm. → Tip of the week · together Learn about married life together Knowledge of married life is part of every Muslim's responsibility. “Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim.” (Sunan Ibn Majah) Practise: Read one lesson on this site with your spouse this week. →
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